Don’t get it confused when you see superstars in sports or even politicians “marketing” themselves by talking trash…
Communicating what we feel and what we think consistently and intentionally is a sign of strength. Emotional consistency takes self-discipline. Reaching your potential, living well, or giving your best effort will always take more self-discipline, not less.
Emotional inconsistency will cause those around you to mistrust you because they will never be sure what to expect from you. Saying everything you feel with no ability to capture your emotions or filter what you say will also cause you to mistrust yourself.
Emotional inconsistency is fatal for any leader. If you expect people to listen to you and trust your judgment, then you must be a sure and steady force in words and deeds. Many immature leaders think that they need to “play on emotion” to motivate people. That’s just manipulation, not leadership, and it’s a strategy that is sure to fail. Leadership means being able to demonstrate what you expect from those you are responsible for.
Mindset Tools:
1. If you need to express your emotions, do it with intentionality and intensity, not by emoting. There is a big difference.
2. If you have to have an emotional breakdown, do it in private. Out of control emotion is a sure sign of weakness.
3. It’s just true; your words have the power to create or destroy in your life and the lives of others. Understand the power of your words by defining yourself. Don’t give away your strength and power because you refuse or don’t know how to control what you say.
4. If you are not sure what to say, then don’t say anything until you know. There is nothing wrong with being the STRONG SILENT TYPE.
Keep Coming Forward!
Jimmy Hensel
